Strict parenting, when balanced and compassionate, can help children develop discipline and respect. Nigerian parents have done a great job in installing discipline. However, when it crosses the line into mental abuse, it can have severe long-term effects on a child’s mental and emotional well-being. This guide aims to help parents, guardians, and educators recognize the signs of mental abuse disguised as strict parenting.

1. Constant Criticism and Belittling

While constructive criticism is part of healthy parenting, constant criticism, and belittling can damage a child’s self-esteem. Signs include:

Negative Language: Regular use of harsh, demeaning, or derogatory language.
Comparisons: Frequently comparing the child unfavorably to others, especially siblings or peers.Unleash Your Social Superpowers: A Guide to Becoming a Socializing Sorcerer

2. Emotional Manipulation
   Emotional manipulation involves controlling a child’s emotions and actions through guilt, fear, or shame. Indicators include:
   Guilt Tripping: Making the child feel guilty for expressing their needs or desires.
   Fear Induction: Using threats of punishment or abandonment to control behavior.
3. Isolation and Social Restriction
   Isolating a child from their peers and limiting their social interactions can be a sign of mental abuse. Look for:
   Prohibiting Friendships: Not allowing the child to have friends or participate in social activities.
4. Excessive Control and Lack of Autonomy
   While guidance is necessary, overly controlling a child’s life can stifle their independence and personal growth. Signs include:
5. Micromanagement: Dictating every aspect of the child’s life, from what they wear to whom they can be friends with.
   No Privacy: Invading the child’s privacy, such as reading their diary or messages without permission.

Strict parenting should aim to guide and support a child’s growth, not diminish their spirit. By recognizing the signs of mental abuse, we can take steps to ensure children grow up in nurturing and supportive environments that foster their overall well-being.

By Edima Columbus