When you’re in love, it’s easy to get swept off your feet by someone who seems to have all the answers and makes you feel like the most special person in the world. But sometimes, those dreamy vibes can blur into something more concerning like grooming. If you’ve noticed that your friend or even you are suddenly wrapped up in someone who seems a little too involved in changing things, here’s a light-hearted guide to help spot the signs before things get too serious.

1. Sudden Interest in Authority Figures: She starts idolizing an older person in her life who “just gets her.” It’s almost like they’ve unlocked the secrets of the universe together.
2. Over-the-Top Flattery: He showers her with compliments that make you wonder if he’s got a secret compliment generator.
3. Isolation Excuses: She’s constantly busy with her “special someone,” and hanging out with friends becomes a distant memory.
4. Unsolicited ‘Advice’: Suddenly, she’s getting “tips” on how to dress, act, or even speak. She’s convinced it’s for her good because “he knows best.”
5. Drastic Personality Shift: If she starts ditching her old habits and embracing an entirely new lifestyle, it could be more than just a phase.
6. Subtle Gaslighting: She starts second-guessing herself in everyday situations, thinking maybe she’s the problem… when she never was!
7. Romantic Intensity: Everything is too perfect and happening too fast, like they’re living in a romance novel, but with a slight edge of control.

Grooming can sometimes sneak up in the guise of love, but with a little self-awareness and a solid support system, it’s easy to keep the wool from being pulled over your eyes. If you or someone you know checks off a few of these signs, don’t panic just take a step back, reassess the situation, and remember that true love doesn’t need to change who you are to flourish!

By Edima Columbus